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Mother’s Day Loss of a Child

On Mother’s Day, loss of a child grief is especially painful.

Whether a mother is recently bereaved or mourns the loss of a child who died years ago, the pain is still fresh, powerful, and real.

At Ian’s Place, we understand the challenges that Mother’s Day can bring. Here are some suggestions to deal with this poignant time.

Acknowledge the Pain of Child Loss on Mother’s Day

As bereaved parents ourselves, we know that Mother’s Day pain is real. Contrary to popular belief, it is healthy to acknowledge your grief. In fact, we created Ian’s Place so that mothers and fathers have a supportive place to talk, cry, and pray about their lost children.

Consequently, it is helpful to send a note or gift to a grieving mother at this painful time. You can also call or text a grieving mother to check in with them. Go ahead and ask how they feel. Let the mother know you are here to listen. Don’t offer judgment or advice—often, a sympathetic ear is the best help you can offer for the Mother’s Day loss of a child.

Offer Support to Mothers Who Have Lost Children

The loss of a child is frequently isolating and alienating. Frequently, bereaved mothers can’t believe anyone can understand their pain. While it’s true that everyone’s grief is unique, parents of lost children do have a common bond. Therefore, it is helpful to join a support group. Gathering with other parents who have lost children brings relief to many mothers, especially on difficult days like birthdays, holidays, and Mother’s Day.

For people who have not lost a child but want to offer support to a bereaved mother, we have a few suggestions:

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Remind Mothers to Take Care of Themselves

Self-care is so important for any mother who has lost a child. This is especially true on Mother’s Day. Remind these mothers that it is okay to take care of themselves and do what feels right for them on Mother’s Day. Certainly, it helps to encourage a bereaved mother to make a self-care plan specifically for this challenging time.

Whether this means the bereaved mother stays in bed, looks through photos, watches favorite movies, goes for a walk, or takes a vacation is perfectly fine. Some women want to be with others, while others prefer spending the day alone. It’s all good, provided it feels like self-care to the mother of a lost child.

Offer Hope to Mothers Who Have Lost Children

At Ian’s Place, one of our most important missions is to assure other grieving parents that joy is possible. Emphatically, it is important for bereaved mothers to know they can walk back to the light. One of the most helpful ways to do this is to meet with other parents who have lost children. Because of support groups, Mother’s Day loss of a child grief is a chance to connect and heal rather than suffer in silence.

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Mother’s Day Loss of a Child Reflections


All things considered, Mother’s Day is a difficult time for bereaved parents. Constant reminders of mothers and children are painful. The impulse to celebrate motherhood is difficult when a child is no longer alive. Furthermore, it is challenging to celebrate this day even when a mother has surviving children.

As a result, it’s important not to impose rules or limitations on mothers of lost children. Relatives, friends, and neighbors can make a difficult day less stressful. It’s a matter of compassion and care. A simple acknowledgment like “I am thinking of you” text may be appropriate. If you have a book about grief you’d like to share, that’s a good possibility. Similarly, you can accompany a grieving mother to a self-care day or memorial celebration. The gesture doesn’t have to be heavy or reverential; simple sincerity is frequently the best form of support.


Ian’s Place as a Resource for Mother’s Day Loss of a Child

For mothers who have lost a child, we offer heartfelt sympathy. As bereaved parents ourselves, we founded Ian’s Place to help those who feel lost and alone. Certainly, we are here to listen. That means meeting you wherever you are on your journey, whether you have recently lost a child or experienced years-long grief.

Furthermore, we assure you that healing is possible through faith, love, and support. As incredible as it sounds, joy is possible for grieving mothers. Please contact us if you need support now or at any other time. It sounds unlikely, but, there is a way back to the light. And we are here to walk with you.

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