Frequently Asked Questions
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Frequently Asked Questions
How long does mourning last?
The truth is, mourning a child is an ongoing process. There can be times of profound pain triggered by special occasions or dates. Similarly, sadness can also be triggered by chance occurrences like a song on the radio, the aroma of cooking, or the sight of a special symbol.
On the other hand, there may be times when you are able to rejoice over the memory of your lost child, feeling profound gratitude for your time together. Ultimately, mourning is cyclical. That’s where a support group is incredibly helpful; it’s there to provide comfort, regardless of what form your mourning takes.
Is it normal to cry every day after death?
It is absolutely normal to cry every day after the loss of your child. Similarly, it’s perfectly normal not to cry at all after your child’s death. There is no right or wrong reaction to the loss of a child. The important thing is to not judge yourself and allow your emotions to come. Sitting with your feelings is a big part of the healing process that can be aided by a bereavement support group.
What's the fastest way to get some support?
You can get support from Ian’s Place immediately—that’s what we’re here for. Call or chat online now. Of course, if you’re unable to connect at an unusual time, don’t hesitate to call emergency services. Again, these resources exist to help people who are in your exact situation. Emphatically, you are not alone.
What happens in a support group? Do I have to talk or can I just listen?
Emotional pain is terrible to bear, made worse by isolation. The purpose of a support group is to gather with people who have undergone similar losses. When you attend one of our support groups, you are welcome to speak or just listen—it’s entirely up to you. As a place for healing in a Christian environment, we are here to provide the love, faith, and support you need to heal.
How do I explain my child’s death to the other children in my family?
When it comes to talking about death, it’s important to adjust your language so it is age appropriate. Toddlers have a different capacity for understanding death than preschoolers and school-aged children. Again, it helps to attend support groups with other bereaved parents with similar experiences.
How long has Ian's Place been in operation?
After losing our beloved son Ian in 2019, we were desperate for local sources of support but could find none. That’s when we created Ian’s Place for Bereaved Parents, to help those who need to grieve in a Christian environment.
Can I participate if I'm not Christian?
Of course. Prayer is a form of healing for people of all faiths. Please feel free to attend any of our support groups or Bible studies. These gatherings are a place to grieve, share stories, and get support from other bereaved parents.
I am not a bereaved parent, but want to help. How can I help?
First of all, we appreciate your desire to help Ian’s Place. There are volunteer options; please reach out through this contact form.
I lost my child years ago and still struggle with grief. Is it OK to contact you?
Absolutely. Our members are both newly bereaved parents and people who lost their children long ago. Some are mourning the loss of infants, toddlers, and teenagers,, while others are coping with the death of adult children. The truth is, the loss of a child has a permanent effect on parents. We’re here to help at all stages of your grieving.
Is it realistic to think I can ever be happy after the loss of my child?
Believe it or not, yes. One of the purposes of Ian’s Place is to help members find healing through hope for the future. We’ve experienced it ourselves. Happiness is possible for bereaved parents. As Christians, we are here to remind you that “Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”—Psalm 30:5
Media – Ian’s Place In the News
NEW – Video – ABC7 Family & Parenting
The bereavement center provides comfort, healing and a supportive community for parents who’ve lost a child suddenly.
Article – Healing Through Hope
Ian’s Place Feature – Downer’s Grove Magazine Online – (page 42)
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Podcast – Christ Church
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“We know the dark place you are in right now; we’ve been there. You don’t believe you will walk back into the light and laugh and find joy, but you will. We are here to help.”
Article – Shining Bright
Catching up with ABC7 meteorologist Tracy Butler on career, family, and how her sunny outlook allows her to weather any of life’s storms Downer’s Grove Magazine Online
Video – ABC7 Eyewitness News 2021
Parents who lost son open Clarendon Hills club ‘Ian’s Place’ to support other grieving parents
Communities We Support
The EM5 Fly Foundation
The EM5 Fly Foundation was created to honor the short life and big heart of 15 year-old Evan Melau, who was taken from this earthly world way too soon. The mission of this foundation is simple: help others, create joy. Or as Evan would say, “spread it around!” EM5 achieves this by raising funds that assist families, children, teenagers and student athletes in the form of events, monetary donations, gift cards, holiday gift baskets, scholarships, and more.